Sex toys have come a long way since 54BC when Cleopatra created the first vibrator by putting a swarm of angry bees into a hollowed-out fruit shell. Now mainstream due to the likes of Sex and the City and the Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon, sex toys are more openly available and come in a variety of appealing colors, shapes, sizes and materials.
As a result of this newfound cultural openness it is possible that your client may request or wish to use a sex toy when in a booking; therefore as with any other aspect of escorting, it's vital to be prepared in order to be able to do so safely and hygienically.
In addition to the safety factor sex toys can also offer escorts;
– Heightened sexual pleasure for the client and an enhanced experience
– A much needed break from various sexual activities
– Give clients with disabilities or erectile dysfunction the help they need to achieve sexual fulfilment when being intimate
But whilst sex toys can be a good alternative as part of partnered sex, there are certain things escorts need to be aware of to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and avoid any ensuing unnecessary worry:
Practice sex toys on yourself first
If you have been requested by a client to use a sex toy it is best to experiment on your own first so you learn the ins and outs of how to use it and on what settings — doing this also helps to learn what positions that would best stimulate your client and yourself.
Communicate with your client and only experiment with what you feel comfortable with
If a client has brought along their own sex toy and you would rather use your own then let them know – this is advisable for escorts as it avoids any unnecessary risk of infection Likewise, if you do not feel comfortable using certain toys it is important to voice these opinions early so you both know what you're getting into.
Use the right toys for the job
It's very important to use the right sex toys for the right purpose. Using your toys inappropriately with a client could lead to a potentially damaging situation, both emotionally and physically.As an example, toys such as the ‘bullet' vibrator offer compact powerful stimulation for the clitoris and outside the vulva however pose a problem if they are then inserted. Usually less than 6 inches in length, a bullet vibrator could get lost if used in this way, and potentially cause damage yourself or the client.
Anal toys too, in particular should always be smooth without seams and have a flared base for easy removal.
So when thinking of adding sex toys to the mix remember research and read instructions on how to use them in the right way before agreeing to anything with your client.
Clean your sex toys
Always, always, always wash your sex toys before and after use if you want to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and infections. Most sex toys should come with advice as to how best to clean and store them but if they don't simply use plenty of hot soapy water or a recommended antibacterial sex toy cleaner.
Use condoms on your sex toys
Where possible use a condom on your sex toys when sharing with a partner as it keeps a good level of hygiene and lowers the risk of spreading and sharing sexual transmitted diseases and infections.
Vary your vibrations
Believe it or not repetitive use of one vibrator can over stimulate the clitoris and even cause numbness or pain therefore to avoid any injury or discomfort try not to use the same setting continuously, some vibrators now have a pulse setting or other variations, consider trying these to keep as safe and pleasurable as possible.
- Don't use massage oil as lubricant
Massage Oils break down condom rubber. Choose a water based lubricant instead, for example ID Moments Water Based Lubricant is a glycerine and paraben free lubricant which is great for those with sensitive skin or prone to yeast infections and easily available on Amazon.
- Check your sex toys
Check your sex toys regularly for any scratches or breaks in the surface material where germs could be present and spread, increasing the risk of infection.
- Be aware of sex toy materials
You really do get what you pay for when it comes to buying sex toys. Be wary of toys that have that "new car smell" or lay claim to being merely "novelty items" as they are likely to contain chemicals such as phthalates which are harmful to your body.Plastic and jelly rubber are the main culprits of phthalates used to soften and shape toys; these can have adverse affects on the reproductive process and are linked to increased instances of birth defects and sperm damage. But, whilst these sex toys may not be ideal for your health, they usually are very appealing due to low cost, texture and the stimulation they provide. So if you own or buy a toy that is made of porous material (or you aren't sure what it is made of), be safe and make sure you use a condom.
Sex toys safest for your body and peace of mind are those made from high quality, hygienic materials from trusted retailers. Two such examples would be Ohtique and Eden Fantasies where it's much easier to find high quality items than on a massive site like Amazon. Products from providers such as these will include medical grade silicone, stainless steel and glass (Pyrex), are body friendly, have longer life spans and are easier to clean and look after.
Don't go from back to front
Transferring a sex toy from your anus to your vagina or vice versa holds potential health risks for infections and should be avoided unless you have cleaned the toy thoroughly first. Using condoms (and switching them when you change locations) – as mentioned above – are also a great way of staying safe and protected against infections.
If it is too big, or in the wrong place don't force it
It's not always about size and a large dildo doesn't always do the trick for everyone!This may sound obvious to you but it really is important to avoid forcing objects into yours or your client's anus or vagina as it could do some serious damage. Remember to take it slowly and use plenty of water-based lubricant to help ease your toy in. If this still does not work or either of you feel uncomfortable stop straight away. There are loads of sex toys out there to help progressive play especially when it comes to anal sex, so fear not there will be something out there for you.
Finally, there's a lot to remember to ensure both yours and your clients safety. Should you or your client request to use a sex toy, there's a good list of sex facts and myths here should you have any questions about what's a best practice to remain safe during sex.