Pornography, reaching all corners of the world, is a billion dollar industry that is said to be important in the lives of 20% of the population. Porn is the most consistently consumed form of media – yet it fosters the most unnatural expectations.

Even though many clients’ urges for companionship are fueled by porn, the industry does not provide positive influences that follow through for escorts and their experiences. Consider the top 12 ways porn does the escort industry an injustice:

1. Actors in porn films are depicted as objects upon which sex is performed. Critics have consistently contended for years that pornography objectified women. However, it really goes one step further than just including women. The films, scenarios and depictions created through the porn industry lead viewers to believe that people are simply vessels for sexual organs. When a woman is the aggressor in these films, she simply engages in some form of sexual activity with her co-star, reducing the sex act to just that. It’s an act, rather than pleasure. It’s often obligatory and driven by the goal to get it done. The escort industry bases its value on providing pleasure…not simply getting the job done. When a client seeks an escort, after being primed by watching porn, he may be missing the point of the entire escort industry, mistaking it for an outlet for his sexual aggression. The escort industry is about so much more than physical sex acts; it’s about companionship and engagement between two human beings.
2. Pornography gives clients unfair expectations about how female orgasm occurs. In most porn films, simple penile penetration creates orgasmic waves of passion and joy in the female co-star. Often, this occurs with no foreplay, no clitoral stimulation and no lubrication. Clients who watch porn and assume this is how it’s done are very mistaken when they can’t bring an escort to climax with their porn-like efforts. They assume that an escort is nearly a walking orgasm, just waiting to happen in their presence. In fact, some clients become so discouraged by not being able to achieve this masculine feat that they blame the escort for her failure to cooperate. They criticize her for her inability to orgasm when, in fact, it is they who aren’t doing things right. But, according to what they watch online, they are doing everything perfectly. This creates situations where escorts feel they must “perform” by faking orgasms for their clients, so they feel manly and powerful.
3. Expectations about an escort’s appearance are unrealistically influenced by the porn industry. Although it is true that there is a porn film for everyone, featuring all sorts of body types and ethnicities, most successful industry actresses are large breasted, small waisted and conform to media’s basic image of beauty. But, expectations of appearance go even further than bust size or body type. Because of porn, men have been exposed to what a woman’s genitals and surrounding areas should look like. An escort’s vulva and vaginal area should resemble those featured in porn films, according to industry viewers. Escorts are often expected to have no pubic hair, subjecting themselves to uncomfortable shaving or waxing, in order to look like porn actresses. And, a new trend is emerging for male preferences, fueled by porn films: anal bleaching. Apparently, in porn, a dark anus is unattractive, so actresses have begun bleaching theirs to lighten them. Many escorts are being asked to do the same. The reality of what a real woman is supposed to look like has been altered severely by expectations built by porn producers. Clients who hire escorts, expect them to look like the women they see in the videos.
4. Porn glorifies sex scenarios that most clients wouldn’t desire without the power of suggestion. Violence or aggressive sex are prominent themes in pornography, and they are often requested by clients. When escorts ask their clients how they came up with such fantasies, clients usually respond by indicating they saw it in a porn flick. Painful, forceful encounters where an escort is subjected to cruelty and disrespect is common with clients, especially by those who admit to watching porn regularly. Clients are influenced by porn to think that rape fantasies, slapping or hitting in the face and forceful penetration are “normal” and they should request these from an escort. In fact, they often think this should be part of an escort’s normal services to her clients during the time she spends with them. Encounters are then based not on what they desire for themselves, but on scenes they have seen in videos. Unfortunately, many clients don’t experience the satisfaction from these encounters that they expect, and often end up blaming the escort for not providing proper stimulation.
5. Clients request uncommon sex acts (assuming they are typical) as a result of watching porn. As they consume sexually-explicit videos online and in other places, the visual novelty of the productions appeal to them. As they get increasingly desensitized to the standard videos, they graduate to more explicit videos for the pure shock value they present, eventually developing the thought that these activities are standard. As they watch more porn, their desires are shaped by what they see, causing them to request fetish sex, demand facials and the privilege to ejaculate on their escorts’ breasts, insist on double penetration scenarios, along with a long list of other less traditional acts. Their desires get more and more twisted, never being satisfied by standard straight-forward sex acts. In order to arouse her clients, an escort has to indulge clients in outlandish, freakish activities. Unfortunately, an escort who refuses to walk a wilder side may lose business as a result of these porn-influenced attitudes about sex.
6. Pornography encourages clients to think they can engage in sex with an escort without using protection. Rarely do you see a porn video where anyone utilizes any sort of condoms or other protection (such as dental dams, finger cots or other types). As a result, escorts end up with a whole category of clients who don’t expect condoms to be required during any intimate acts experienced during an encounter. They are nearly impossible to persuade or encourage to use condoms or practice any safe practices. The people in porn don’t use them, so clients don’t figure they have to, either. Escorts who value their health don’t back down to these clients and often lose business. Clients don’t realize that porn stars undergo regular testing and are expected to maintain their good sexual health, as part of their contracts. Because all of them are under tight scrutiny, the need for protection is less. Although, the prevalence of sexually transmitted infections is still an issue in the porn industry, despite media attention. Clients don’t think beyond the pleasure they will receive without having a condom in the way. The best thing an escort can do is to inform clients that they are not only protecting themselves from disease and pregnancy risks, but the use of a condom ensures that the client doesn’t catch anything, either.
7. Clients think that foreplay is unnecessary. As they watch porn videos, the stars rarely engage in much foreplay action. Women are always ready for penetration, without lube or any help getting warmed up. They are sexed up and eager for action. Even though escorts are being paid to pleasure their clients through spending special time with them, that doesn’t mean that some foreplay isn’t advisable for both parties. It ensures that a client’s erection is full and he is aroused prior to any action. It also makes penetration more comfortable for both an escort and her client, increasing the natural degree of lubrication and relaxing her vaginal muscles. Porn films that fail to demonstrate foreplay as a significant (and enjoyable) part of any intimate act is letting its viewers down, in addition to influencing them to have unrealistic expectations about the pleasures of sex.
8. Pornography has showcased ridiculous female orgasms. Viewers who have little contact with “real” women assume that what they see in videos is accurate. When they attempt to engage with an escort (or other female partners), they expect a woman to react with loud moans or screams of ecstasy, physical contortions and other visible signs. They don’t realize that a female orgasm can have many appearances, ranging from quiet to high volume. Clients who have gotten their sex educations from the porn industry don’t understand that a woman’s genitals are extremely sensitive immediately after an orgasm, so it’s uncomfortable to continue to try to pleasure her for multiple climaxes. Also, they expect for escorts to be able to “squirt” when they climax. Although some escorts claim they can actually accomplish this, most of what porn viewers see is staged. Very few videos actually catch a woman who can expel bodily fluids distances from her vagina. However, because they may have seen it online, clients want an escort who can do it, too.
9. Intimacy has been undermined. The escort industry is deeply focused on providing intimacy between the professional and her clients. Establishing a real connection, sharing affection and indulging in pleasure is the basis of the escort industry. But, when fans of porn become clients, they fail to recognize how important the intimacy aspect of their encounters is. Clients fail to value the connection, sparks and relationship that forms between escorts and their regulars. Because they see porn stars have mindless sex with other actresses, without developing any kind of bond, several clients naturally assume that they can get that when they book an escort, too. It’s possible, of course. But, it completely goes against what escorts attempt to provide to their clients. Nurturing, affection, appreciation, generosity and consideration are important elements featured in the escort/client relationship, but are often taken for granted by porn-infected clients.
10. Escorts sometimes find it difficult to sexually please clients who are avid porn viewers. These clients habitually satisfy themselves through masturbation as they watch porn online or on television. Their efforts to stimulate themselves and climax feel much different than the touches used by an escort. These clients become so accustomed to their own touch, it’s difficult to orgasm as a result of an escort’s efforts. Additionally, clients have a refractory period that limits how soon they can orgasm again after an initial climax. If a client watched porn right before visiting with an escort, he may be unable to obtain or maintain an erection, little lone accomplish satisfaction. Some clients become so focused on the visual stimulus of porn videos or photos, that they cannot focus on a real, live escort who is with them in the room. It’s a foreign concept to them to be able to receive pleasure with someone right there…instead of in a room by themselves with porn on the screen. Escorts sometimes have great challenges pleasing clients whose arousal is so tied up in the porn experience. Unless they incorporate porn into the encounter, efforts are usually without success.
11. Consent is unimportant in porn. It’s not uncommon for a porn actress to be subjected to surprise facials, unapproved penetration in nether regions or ejaculation upon parts of her body including her back or breasts. Usually, in the video, her co-star doesn’t ask permission or talk to her about this ahead of time. This leaves viewers to naturally assume this is acceptable and appropriate behavior anytime that intercourse is occurring. Of course, this is not respectful behavior toward anyone, especially an escort. Escorts function with the agreement that no client will surprise her with activities they haven’t discussed ahead of time. No client should assume that he has the privilege to do anything to an escort that he hasn’t gained approval for.
12. The porn industry provides clients with unrealistic expectations about how sexual relationships function, especially when it involves respect for your partner. Escorts must be very clear when they meet with clients to inform them that consent must be granted for all actions, from innocent kissing to more intimate exchanges.

Overall, pornography can be fun to incorporate into encounters with clients. However, the escort industry is often unfairly affected by the unrealistic expectations and falsehoods that are influenced by perceptions of porn fans. Escorts must be aware that many clients come to them with misconceptions about how to act appropriately when in their company.